A healthy humility is good, but our English teachers set us up for trouble when they came down so hard on putting other people first in our writing. Everybody knows it’s best to say “My wife and I went out to eat,” rather than the crude and self-centered “Me and my wife went out to eat.” But if the wife and I are the objects in the sentence, it’s all about “me:”
They invited my wife and me to the event.” (It’s not “the wife and I.)
The easy way to tell is to see how it sounds without the wife. Nobody would say, “They invited I.” At least, I’ve never seen it happen. So like I said, it’s all about “me.”
Let’s move on to my other favorite whipping boy: Using “myself” when you real mean “me” or “I.” Here’s how it looks when we confuse them:
Somebody brought over some chicken for Eddie and myself. (It’s “Eddie and me.”)
Eddie and myself proposed a compromise. (It’s “Eddie and I.”)
This is an easy one. If you don’t use “I” earlier in the sentence, it’s almost never correct to utter myself.
In short, it’s:
Somebody brought over some chicken for Eddie and me.
Again, the easy way to check yourself is to take out the words in between. I’ve never heard anybody say “Somebody brought over some chicken for myself.”